This is the story of a very average woman who discovered she could be a total badass.     Chapter one   If you search the term ‘life changing’ on Amazon, you’ll get over 10,000 results: most of them are books. Other items that are purportedly life-changing include spendy cosmetics, water filters, and a certain type of dog food.    Which begs the question: if it’s so easy to change your life, how come so many people still live a shitty existence, unaware of the unlimited options that, for just a few dollars, will do the job that no therapist managed to do?  My name is Haleli Smadar. Seventeen years ago, I was…